Connecting to Self

Creating Your Ideal Day

Moving Toward Living a Life that Makes You Feel Whole

“I realized I spoke more passionately about the things that upset me, than the things that brought me peace and happiness. I don’t want to be the kind of person who obsesses over my pain. I am learning how to change the conversation and redirect that energy creatively while acknowledging that pain is important to explore but detrimental to me to fixate on.” 

 Prompts to Help Connect to Self

 What makes you feel the most connected to yourself?

What does connected to yourself feel like for you?

Who makes you feel good about being you?

What are some things that you do that make you forget to check your phone?

What are some things that drain you?

Why do you have a hard time setting boundaries around these things?

What prevents you from feeling connected? How can you remove these barriers?

How can you create space for deep self honesty?

What makes you feel more authentic?

What is a self promise you are willing to make and keep today to help you come back to yourself?

Prompts to Rein in Control

 How am I treating myself and my body? What does my inner critic sound like? Who is it? How is it protecting me? How do I make friends with this side of myself? What does it need from me to quiet down or work along side me?

How am I reacting to people and situations? Is what is bothering me about other people actually something that bothers me about myself? Why? How can I change this behavior?

Where am I focusing my time, energy and attention?

Who am I choosing to surround myself with? Why?

What does my screen time look like? How much time am I spending on a device? What are the most frequently used apps? What do you like to use your devices for? How long do I typically spend scrolling/searching/reading etc?

What am I doing with my spare time?

How do I express my thoughts and emotions?

How to get engaged/motivated in an activity or task:

Cultivate interest

Recognize the challenge

Appreciate the novelty 

Notice the urgency

Understand the passion

Micro habits to change the landscape of your life

1.      Drink a glass of warm water with lemon juice upon awakening

2.      Make your bed when you get out of it

3.      Spend 5-10 minutes stretching each morning

4.      Write down three things you are grateful for every morning/evening

5.      Take three to five deep breaths before you brush your teeth, when you get in the car, at any point before you start your day

6.      Spend 5 minutes meditating or doing a mindfulness activity

7.      Set one goal for the day, this should be small and attainable but challenging

8.      Do one thing a day that makes you happy (no need to limit to just one but at least one time should be prioritized)

9.      Take a 10-15 minute walk each day

10.  Read 10-15 minutes to bed

11.  Turn off electronics 30 minutes before bed

12.  Listen to a podcast, audiobook or your favorite music during your commute

13.  Smile at yourself in the mirror, as often as possible throughout the day

14.  Practice a random act of kindness for someone else during the day, reflect upon the kindness you have showed yourself as well

15.  Call or text someone to check in 

16.  Notice your posture throughout the day and stand/sit up straight when you notice slouching or becoming small

17.  Write down a to do list for the next day

18.  Take a few moments to reflect and do a brain dumb before bed

It takes 3 weeks to start a habit.

66 days to find a groove

1 year to make it automatic

2+ years to make it a part of your identity

“All things are created twice; first mentally; then physically. The key to creativity is to begin with the end in mind, with a vision and a blue print of the desired result.” – Stephen Covey